Several years ago, one of my clients began the session by declaring, “I’ve had an epiphany!”  I responded, “Great! What was it?”  She replied, “Relationships aren’t natural.”  Then we both burst out laughing.

Thank two of the biggest relationship myths around if you agree with my client’s misguided thinking.

Love is all you need.

Love is unconditional.

Wrong and wrong.  If love was all that was necessary for a marriage to survive, the divorce rate for first marriages wouldn’t be close to fifty percent.  Second, the only place love may be unconditional is parent to child, and I’m not even sure about that.  Between partners, you better believe it’s conditional if you don’t want your relationship to end.  How you feel about your partner is a direct result of how you feel your partner treats you.